So Why Bother?
Well, I am a truth-teller (almost compulsive about it). When people take advantage of me, it often seems to involve this truth-telling component which "sets me up" because of my extensive honesty. I was raised in a time and in families where being truthful was always very important. The essential difference in orientations toward truth between my now-ex and me is the most important issue which destroyed our marriage and good relationship even before we were married!
I recently read "People of the Lie" by Dr. Scott Peck -- it enlightened me significantly and let me see how people live lives chock-full of lies. I heartily recommend this book although it may disappoint you to realize that so many of the people who are lying are also evil! The lies are the basic symptom of evil. Dr. Peck was breaking ground through this new scientific inquiry into the psychology of evil, exploring & explaining the dark side opposing truth & honesty in human behavior. Much of the explanation involves the demonic and satanic "It" among us being real and having real effects on us. Peck had set out to disprove everything that he wound up finding & believing in the end!
But the reason to bother is great & significant! I found, in simulated P.O.W. camp before my Vietnam tour, it is EXTREMELY important and helpful if a person can tell his own story to just 1 or 2 people and have it accepted for the truth HE knows it is. When a person is sabotaged or scapegoated with and because of untruths (lies), he often has no clue what is going on with the lies. It is part of the intentional (conscious or unconscious) design of the saboteur. The intended victim of lies has little defense especially if maintaining his devotion to truthfulness. His only real defense against lies is to spike them with the truth -- even though many who already heard the lies will never hear that truth or change their now-prejudiced opinions.
From what I've seen, a liar hates the exposure of his/her lies -- they will reconstruct their memories significantly to support the lies or be consistent and self-accepting as justified in their having lied. A lot of mental twisting and mind-bending goes on in this realm. So, telling an accurate story of the truth bothers the liar & manipulator. That is part of the reason why one should bother. Another part is to be assertive and express their own reality having been caught in the web of a liar's manipulations and control-games. It reminds truthtellers that they are the real object of psychological abuse by a liar, and that the truthteller is really the one in the right! Truthtellers have the right to tell their story... to declare it to the world with outrage at the deceiver who prefers to manipulate in order to satisfy perverted control needs. Deceivers will try to convince truthtellers that the deception is really the truth; then, we can all become confused.
But confusion is a symptom that something is awry or missing, and needs further discernment. Discernment often requires patient waiting which disadvantages the truthteller -- the shallow world rushes on and grabs along its way what seems at the moment to be true. It is in too great a hurry to bother being SURE it has registered with truth. This must please the Father of Lies! (Which is another reason to bother!)
Well, I am a truth-teller (almost compulsive about it). When people take advantage of me, it often seems to involve this truth-telling component which "sets me up" because of my extensive honesty. I was raised in a time and in families where being truthful was always very important. The essential difference in orientations toward truth between my now-ex and me is the most important issue which destroyed our marriage and good relationship even before we were married!
I recently read "People of the Lie" by Dr. Scott Peck -- it enlightened me significantly and let me see how people live lives chock-full of lies. I heartily recommend this book although it may disappoint you to realize that so many of the people who are lying are also evil! The lies are the basic symptom of evil. Dr. Peck was breaking ground through this new scientific inquiry into the psychology of evil, exploring & explaining the dark side opposing truth & honesty in human behavior. Much of the explanation involves the demonic and satanic "It" among us being real and having real effects on us. Peck had set out to disprove everything that he wound up finding & believing in the end!
But the reason to bother is great & significant! I found, in simulated P.O.W. camp before my Vietnam tour, it is EXTREMELY important and helpful if a person can tell his own story to just 1 or 2 people and have it accepted for the truth HE knows it is. When a person is sabotaged or scapegoated with and because of untruths (lies), he often has no clue what is going on with the lies. It is part of the intentional (conscious or unconscious) design of the saboteur. The intended victim of lies has little defense especially if maintaining his devotion to truthfulness. His only real defense against lies is to spike them with the truth -- even though many who already heard the lies will never hear that truth or change their now-prejudiced opinions.
From what I've seen, a liar hates the exposure of his/her lies -- they will reconstruct their memories significantly to support the lies or be consistent and self-accepting as justified in their having lied. A lot of mental twisting and mind-bending goes on in this realm. So, telling an accurate story of the truth bothers the liar & manipulator. That is part of the reason why one should bother. Another part is to be assertive and express their own reality having been caught in the web of a liar's manipulations and control-games. It reminds truthtellers that they are the real object of psychological abuse by a liar, and that the truthteller is really the one in the right! Truthtellers have the right to tell their story... to declare it to the world with outrage at the deceiver who prefers to manipulate in order to satisfy perverted control needs. Deceivers will try to convince truthtellers that the deception is really the truth; then, we can all become confused.
But confusion is a symptom that something is awry or missing, and needs further discernment. Discernment often requires patient waiting which disadvantages the truthteller -- the shallow world rushes on and grabs along its way what seems at the moment to be true. It is in too great a hurry to bother being SURE it has registered with truth. This must please the Father of Lies! (Which is another reason to bother!)
posted by Richard A at 11:59 AM
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"Jane" posted an UNWORTHY SPAM ad above, and is an example of the manipulative deceiver I'm speaking of in this particular post. Apparently, she is live because she got around the anti-BOT device of word verification by the Identity Verification window. THAT'S what I am talking about!
~Richard
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