Still Crazy After All These Years!
Fast-forward a few decades from the last post and let me share some real-time crap from Raquel's still-crazy manipulative thinking and behavior. Now that I have recently gotten the half of my retired pay coming to ME again because Raquel did not follow the government rules she was supposed to (as I had told her was required), her gameplaying saga continues.
Shortly before Veterans Day this year, she appealed to me to make her a loan of $500 so she could catch up & pay her bills for September and October while she was waiting for her new job to start. I asked what happened to her inheritance (many thousands of dollars which SHE got to keep totally when her parents died only a couple years AFTER our divorce.) As her mother's cancer worsened, Margo probably warned Raquel to speed up her filing for divorce so that I would not be able to share in the inheritance. I didn't have a clue what was in the offing because of the secrets of that in-bred, incestuous family-of-origin. It was to be ME -- they were "offing" ME! Psychologically, emotionally, financially! Maybe, physically too. (Raquel was getting noticeably more anxious in those days, but not attributing it to anything in particular during our conversations. Clearly, I read it in her general behavior. But, again, denial is one of her favorite misused & overused psychological defense mechanisms.)
Without giving you too many different stories in this one post, let me return to Raquel's promise to pay me back $100/month as soon as she started getting a paycheck from her new job until the whole $500 loan was paid off. Note the reason I became convinced to lend it to her: Because both my adult sons live at her house now, all 3 were out of work at the time, and my sons would have suffered if she were unable to make her house payment or pay the other basic bills.
At least, I had the presence of mind to tell her, "You certainly have a lot of GALL to even ASK me for ANYthing after how badly and unfairly you have treated me before, during, and after the divorce. You have SOME nerve. But I will consider it and think it over, and get back to you." So I thought it over -- and to protect my sons who lived with her, I made her the loan. And, now, after at least 1 new paycheck she has received, she is acting passive-aggressively manipulative again -- same old leopard-spots! Just not putting the check in the mail as promised even though I reduced her first 2 repayal amounts to only $25 / paycheck. That amount is so low, only a habitually lying, manipulating. crazy person would not have sent it.
I am waiting, Raquel.... And making plans -- let's see: 1-Liens on her home, 2-Tell Ivan to get his meds money out of her $500 debt to me, 3-Report to the IRS AGAIN that she never paid her income tax on the alimony I gave her, 4-Report to the state that she never paid her child support to me for the 7 years I raised our younger son (Roger) alone. Perhaps also, some other "more drastic," but legal, means I have only begun to think of.
Fast-forward a few decades from the last post and let me share some real-time crap from Raquel's still-crazy manipulative thinking and behavior. Now that I have recently gotten the half of my retired pay coming to ME again because Raquel did not follow the government rules she was supposed to (as I had told her was required), her gameplaying saga continues.
Shortly before Veterans Day this year, she appealed to me to make her a loan of $500 so she could catch up & pay her bills for September and October while she was waiting for her new job to start. I asked what happened to her inheritance (many thousands of dollars which SHE got to keep totally when her parents died only a couple years AFTER our divorce.) As her mother's cancer worsened, Margo probably warned Raquel to speed up her filing for divorce so that I would not be able to share in the inheritance. I didn't have a clue what was in the offing because of the secrets of that in-bred, incestuous family-of-origin. It was to be ME -- they were "offing" ME! Psychologically, emotionally, financially! Maybe, physically too. (Raquel was getting noticeably more anxious in those days, but not attributing it to anything in particular during our conversations. Clearly, I read it in her general behavior. But, again, denial is one of her favorite misused & overused psychological defense mechanisms.)
Without giving you too many different stories in this one post, let me return to Raquel's promise to pay me back $100/month as soon as she started getting a paycheck from her new job until the whole $500 loan was paid off. Note the reason I became convinced to lend it to her: Because both my adult sons live at her house now, all 3 were out of work at the time, and my sons would have suffered if she were unable to make her house payment or pay the other basic bills.
At least, I had the presence of mind to tell her, "You certainly have a lot of GALL to even ASK me for ANYthing after how badly and unfairly you have treated me before, during, and after the divorce. You have SOME nerve. But I will consider it and think it over, and get back to you." So I thought it over -- and to protect my sons who lived with her, I made her the loan. And, now, after at least 1 new paycheck she has received, she is acting passive-aggressively manipulative again -- same old leopard-spots! Just not putting the check in the mail as promised even though I reduced her first 2 repayal amounts to only $25 / paycheck. That amount is so low, only a habitually lying, manipulating. crazy person would not have sent it.
I am waiting, Raquel.... And making plans -- let's see: 1-Liens on her home, 2-Tell Ivan to get his meds money out of her $500 debt to me, 3-Report to the IRS AGAIN that she never paid her income tax on the alimony I gave her, 4-Report to the state that she never paid her child support to me for the 7 years I raised our younger son (Roger) alone. Perhaps also, some other "more drastic," but legal, means I have only begun to think of.
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